Taken into consideration, the philosophy that “all are one” makes love impossible. This is because love means an agreed relationship between people who are different from each other. To love is to set of highly positive conditions in the company or presence of others. It is fascinating to note that, love from my empirical experience has a feminine nature which deserves more attention. Love of a greater quality is required, else love of lesser quality may be based on the pleasure or utility that is derived from other’s company. This is no different from objectifying man for satisfaction. Explicitly stating that, genuine love is required since its purpose is to contemplate worthy actions, to live pleasantly, share in thoughts and discussions as are appropriate for the virtuous man and his parallel. Also, the action of loving encompasses a broad range of behaviour including caring, listening, attending to, preferring some to others, and so on. Hence if we are all one, loving someone means nothing more than loving oneself. If God, other people, individual animals, different planet, and one’s own soul are all the same, then loving God, loving other people, and loving nature becomes just glorified ways of loving oneself. The first condition for the highest form of Aristotelian love is that man loves himself. This takes flesh in the phrase “all are one” culminates egoistic basis where he cannot extend sympathy and affection to others. The whole universe becomes sucked into a black hole of introversion and egotism. To say everyone is one means that all individual uniqueness must be expunged utterly from recognitions. However, every person has a unique life; therefore, every person has a unique journey,” Gary Cook Appearance created by its glittering generalities may sound radically negative and even despairing or attractive and convivial.
Conversely, we cannot but live in the spirit of love thereby knowing and taking actions based on experiences and history. We must endeavour to trust our intuition, because that is what love is. Because deep down at your core, beyond all your conditions and enlightenments you have received or what you have been exposed to, you know exactly whom you love from your heart despite the fact you cannot tell or read people’s heart. Sometimes, certain people who love you will be unable to express their true feelings, due to reasons best known to them. As such you won’t know especially if you are not keen at observing the signs of love language. Although some people express love openly through their actions, you might think it’s a sign for you, yet that’s just how they treat everyone. The other challenge is, even if you are certain someone is treating you extra special, you might not know their motives. Are they being moved by love or driven by concupiscence? Genuine love gives gift to show affection. But lust will gift to induce decisions thereafter you will marvel the request shortly after receiving gifts. The emblem of love inoculates the habit of kindness. It is the most enduring element of satisfaction and stability in relationships. Kindness makes each partner feel cared for, understood and certified. “My bounty is as boundless as the sea” says Shakespeare’s Juliet. “My love as deep; the more I give to you, the more I have, for both are infinite.” This is how kindness works too: A great deal of evidence shows that the more someone receives or witnesses kindness, the more they will be kind themselves. More often than not, people need to feel special through our kindness either in cash or in kind. Our efforts to show kindness must implant highly positive conditions in others thereby leaving an indelible mark.
We dread the life of love certainly because it will end, attention, caring, flattery and pampering words will abruptly wane, and to some point losing your loved ones. These are bound to happen and yet we are expected to hold on firmly with circumspection considering every necessity to accept the challenge. Sometimes we commit ourselves when we start holding back with a reason of guiding it. Hmm!!! When you didn’t achieve it on a silver platter, enjoy every moment from the inception and plan how to hold on to it when the unfortunate pumps in. Life is like a mist or a shadow that quickly passes by, says the Akan proverb. Love regardless of anything and nature will reciprocate it in folds.
By: HILARY SAMUEL MIL-GRAVES